I was going to say something comforting, but It would probably be a lie, because death is never an easy thing to watch or comprehend even when its a thing I spend a lot of time thinking about.
I can think of nothing to say, Steda. Not really. You need to decide for yourself how to deal with death, and wether or not it is an end or simply a temporary parting. People can give advice, and good wishes, but in the end I don't think there is anything that can be said to help you cope - that is what you must dofor yourself, in the end.
And Telan speaks the truth, I believe you have our support.
'the dead only know one thing, it is better to be alive.'
people make me sick on the essence that they actually believe they can prove the existance of a LORD JESUS CHRIST or THE VIRGIN MARY. the bible is as fictional as STARWARS. in my opinion its really what you believe in, people love to toss around words like 'GOD' or those above like its candy to little children.
not that I can prove or dismiss the thought of a super-natural-being that created the universe, i can atleast say im neutral on the subject of religion or god or jesus or whatever mumbojumbo people throw around. when the time comes, i'll know whats going down. untill then, believe what you want to believe and dont concern yourself with the dead.
steda, i suggest you start thinking on your own and take this as a life experience. believe me, if you sulk and moarn for people it will only eat you alive. just accept your loss and move on with your own life. its what we all must do.
for someone to sit here and say 'its gonna be okay and you'll see them soon.' would just be a crime since they have no idea whats going on with them. this is life and this is death. alpha and omega. i know this must sound like im a big asshole, which i really dont want to come off as...
im sorry for your loss but your question can bare no true answer.
that was sort of my point. and also that the opinions previously expressed, which milkshake panned as "catholic" -- the term his preacher dad has given him for all christianity that rubs him the wrong way -- were actually of the protestant variety.
my advice is this: professional counselling and not the dumbfuck advice of a board populated mostly by teenagers who are either hardline atheists or hardline christians. not that professional help has ever worked for me, but my only other solution involves a lifetime of hard drug use.
What happens after you die? Depends on who you ask.
Some believe in heaven and hell (or the equivilent there of depending on the religion).
Some believe in reincarnation (you're accomplishments, or lack of, determine your form in the next life)
Some believe in none of the above.
The problem is that no one really knows (not even those that are very strong in their faith) what will happen when our bodies expire, not until they <i>do</i> expire. Yes we had people who've come close to death, or actually died and were brought back, and experienced things that could give us a hint. But what they had experienced during their brush of death really the work of a higher power calling to them? Or just side effects of the body 'dying'?
Edit: The thing is a lot of people fear death, when it's something that happens to every living thing. Some say that people turn to religion and the like for 'comfort', so they wouldn't be afraid of the inevidable end of their lifespan. That's their choice and I don't hold that against them.
I'd like to belive that professional help can do some good but I tried that once before when my cousin died and I found myself just getting angry with the councilor rather than actually talking to him. The people I always turned to for help in the past are the ones that are gone. I feel lost without them. I know this is hardly the place to look for answers but I can't think of anywhere else to go.
I've always liked the thought of reincarnation but how an you tell when someone has actually accomplished something in their life? To me the people that have gone accomplished alot but I relied on them so I would see it that way. Too others they might have been considered lazy twats.
