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  • Posted On: Jul 10 2006 12:17am
So I tried it out, so many TV and Radio ads.... Nada... not one match, but here is what I got...

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By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.

Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.

* You tend to think before you act. As a result, the things you do will be purposeful and deliberate.


* When a new activity is considered, you may require support or encouragement to participate or perform in the new activity.


* Your response indicates a strong need to be precise. This projects into the social environment by the need to have a place for everything and everything in its place.


* You prefer not to seek quick personal relationships, but rather build relationships slowly. Once your relationships are formed, they tend to be lasting.


* You may appear to others as hesitant rather than decisive, although you become decisive once all the facts are gathered and evaluated. You will not make a decision unless certain that analysis is complete.


* You will generally not act impulsively. As a result, others around you may perceive a slowness of thought or action. This results not from slow thinking, but from complete analysis of the situation before acting.


* You function best in an environment relatively free of conflict or hostility. When tension mounts, you may become silent; and if tension continues, you may withdraw or avoid the situation altogether.


* You may not jump in immediately for a new idea or activity. You may need time to consider all aspects of the idea before supporting it with time and talent.


* You prefer to wait until you're sure of your ground before acting. This might mean after several visits to a new place, or after a few meetings with a new person, you will feel more open to risk or share trust.

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Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.

* You usually communicate with others in a reserved, diplomatic and congenial fashion. You are a careful and analytic listener who will generally not offer ideas or opinions unless asked.


* Because you may not call attention to your own accomplishments, you may benefit from others giving recognition to you occasionally. Constant recognition may make you feel uncomfortable.


* In new interpersonal situations, you may appear hesitant in relationships with others, and not easily risking or extending trust. This relates to your rather self-contained and cautious manner.


* Your strength is to bring stability, security and awareness of consequences to activities. In a sense, you may be considered as the one with the "conscience."


* You value quality relationships over quantity relationships. While others may boast of hundreds of acquaintances, you will find security in deep relationships with a smaller number of people.


* You may be passive and even cautious in your behavior toward others. On first meeting people, you may be somewhat suspicious, wanting to be more studying of others than revealing of yourself.


* You will convey patience towards others in most situations. This patience comes from a need to maintain harmony. Others may read this as a strong stabilizing factor in your behavior.


* You may be a steadying influence because of your restrained and unassuming way. You usually wait to be asked your opinion rather than offering an opinion.


* You dislike having to initiate new relationships. However, others may seek you out because you are a good listener, quiet and nonthreatening.


* When asked about your opinions, you may not share your ideas or opinions openly with those asking. You remain rather self-contained in social situations. Some may perceive you as aloof, but it's really caution.

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Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.

* Take your time and proceed slowly.


* Have facts and ideas in a logical order.


* Provide time to analyze the data before making a decision.


* If you disagree, organize your thoughts before confronting your partner.


* Prepare your "case" in advance--do your homework.


* Support principles.


* Respect quiet demeanor.


* Use a logical and unemotional approach.


* Use a thoughtful approach.


* Show patience, especially when drawing out information.


* If you agree, follow through with your end of the agreement.

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Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.

* You tend to be the "Anchor of Reality" in highly emotional situations.


* You tend to be an objective, careful evaluator of situations.


* You are good at making certain that even small details are taken care of.


* You are skilled at being diplomatic with people in all settings.


* You tend to be an objective decision-maker, preferring not to let undue emotions bias your decisions.


* You generally take pride in being a strong community member.


* You tend to set and maintain very high standards for yourself.


* You are skilled at finding practical solutions to complicated situations.


* You tend to have very high values.


* You are good at "troubleshooting" potential problems in a relationship.

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n general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.

You may want:

* A supportive environment where you do not have to display great emotion.


* Time away occasionally--you value your privacy.


* Time to adjust to change.


* Better planning for change in the future.


* Objectivity and logic in relationships and activities.


* Others to adhere to your high standards.


* Facts and data before making decisions relating to others.


* Respect among peers and friends for your quiet manner.


* Security and safety procedures around the house: fire safety, smoke detectors, electronic security systems, etc.


* Reassurance.


* No flattery or shallow praise.


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Michael's Compatibility Profile Summary

No person can be fully described or defined by a few short sentences. However, here are several of the most important characteristics revealed by your eHarmony Compatibility Profile that you should keep in mind as you search for your ideal mate:

Some of your ideal mate's strongest personality characteristics are:

She has a strong intellect.

She likes to keep abreast of what's happening in the world.

She is very interested in knowing and learning about certain things.

She likes to keep a healthy balance between "using her head" and "using her heart."

Some important qualities that your ideal partner brings to the relationship are:

She always tries her best to avoid being irritable, even when she isn't feeling her best.

She almost always manages to be open-minded and flexible.

She is always a generous and supportive friend.

She has an appreciation for life's amusing moments, even when they are sometimes at her own expense!

Important goals and values for your ideal mate in a relationship are:

She is proud of the things she does to help others.

She believes in spending some of her time working to make the world a better place.

She likes the feeling that comes from doing things to help other people.

She believes it is important to be a contributing member of the community.

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Social Orientation describes how much of your behavior is motivated by the desire to get along with and be liked by other people, as well as how much is driven by the desire to be seen as an effective problem solver who is self sufficient. People with a strong External Orientation place a high value on communicating their thoughts and feelings with other people. People with a strong Internal Orientation place a high value on individual effectiveness, competence and autonomy. The dimensions that we assess as part of your Social Orientation are Conflict Management, Character, Vitality and Security, Communication Style, Kindness and Autonomy.

Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

Kindness: You and your ideal mate are generally independent. She doesn't need you to shower her with praise and presents. She's the kind of person who will be able to understand oversights, like a missed anniversary or showing up late for a date. She has a thick skin.

Vitality and Security: You will be most compatible with a woman is comfortable with a future that's somewhat undefined. She's self-reliant and isn't looking for emotional support. Friends see her as someone who isn't looking to be rescued; she can take care of herself. She generally focuses on short-term goals rather than things that are years down the road.

Some additional details about your ideal mate:

Character: Your ideal mate isn't going to let other people's misfortunes get her down. Yes, homeless people need help and charities do lots of good work, but that's not necessarily anything that concerns her. She takes care of herself and won't feel the need to try and solve all your problems. Your relationship will be based more on mutual respect than a need for emotional support.

Autonomy: You will be best matched with someone who doesn't think you need to know everything about each other. She likes spending time with friends but doesn't need to check up on them every day. Her friends describe her as the kind of person who'd rather wait for someone to volunteer information instead of trying to pry details out.

Communication: You are best suited to someone who will understand that you don't always want to talk about your thoughts and feelings. She won't expect you to be overly talkative about yourself, and she also won't feel the need to tell you every detail of her life.

Conflict Resolution: You'll be happiest in the long run with a woman who knows that sometimes it's important to fight to win. Making peace sometimes isn't worth giving up her advantage. If she's right, she'll stand her ground, even if it means the argument will get more heated.

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The Extraversion scale assesses how you feel when you are around people. Extroverts are generally comfortable at the center of attention. They rarely feel a need for "alone time" and are almost always eager to meet new people. Introverts, on the other hand, avoid the spotlight when they can, approach many social gatherings with hesitation, and relish time spent with good friends whom they know well. While most people exhibit a mix of Introvert and Extrovert qualities based on what kind of social situation they are in, people who are strongly Extroverted often place the largest value on having many friends and making new friends easily. In contrast, people who are strongly Introverted generally place the highest value on having a few very deep and meaningful friendships. The dimensions of your profile which are associated with Extraversion are Emotional Energy, Sociability, Adaptability, Humor, Romantic Passion and Dominance.

Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

Humor: Your ideal mate is the kind of woman who is funny and interesting. Sometimes, she likes telling jokes and making people laugh with things like one-liners or satirical observations about friends and family. But she doesn't need to be a constant one-woman show.

Adaptability: Your ideal mate likes to find new ways to deal with old challenges. She can think up creative solutions to a problem but doesn't discount the tried-and-true answers. She's the kind of person who can never seem to do something the same way twice. She can accept new approaches to problems when the old solutions have stopped working.

Some additional details about your ideal mate:

Emotional Energy: You'll be happiest with someone who understands that you sometimes need downtime to recharge. She likes being a spectator, whether it's watching sports or just people-watching at an airport. She's not the kind of person who always has a list of things she wants to accomplish in a day.

Romantic Passion: Your ideal mate is a woman who likes to focus on the things of substance in a relationship, not on mushy feelings. She wants to spend time with her partner, but that could just as easily mean taking a hike as fixing a romantic dinner. She might think things like Valentine's Day are somewhat contrived romantic situations, which is probably a relief to someone like you.

Dominance: You are best suited to someone who doesn't take competition to extremes. She likes to win but doesn't need to do so at all costs. She is aggressive when the situation warrants it, such as when vying for a promotion or playing tennis in front of a crowd, but can accept a loss with grace.

Sociability: You'll be happiest with a woman who doesn't go out of her way to meet new people. She's the kind of person who will wait for others to introduce themselves to her. She tends to avoid large parties where she doesn't know anyone. She's not all that fond of mingling, instead preferring time spent with close friends.

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Openness refers to a person's willingness to experience new and creative ideas. People who score low on Openness tend to place a high value on tradition and belonging to a group. People who score high on Openness tend to place a high value on imagination and individualism. Extreme scores on Openness also often distinguish between people who enjoy thinking in symbols and abstractions to people who prefer ideas which are clear and concrete. The dimensions of your profile that we consider as part of Openness are Artistic Passion, Curiosity and Intellect.

Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

Intellect: Your ideal mate is knowledgeable and well-read. She has varied interests but isn't driven to be an expert on everything. She values education but isn't consumed by it. She doesn't need to be the smartest person in the room.

Curiosity: You will be well matched with a woman who likes to understand the world around her. She's generally inquisitive and knowledgeable about subjects that pertain to her life, whether she's a politics junkie or a baseball fan. If she's not interested in an issue, she probably won't feel compelled to read up on it just to expand her knowledge.

Artistic Passion: You are best suited to the kind of woman who can appreciate others' creativity. She likes art galleries but probably doesn't get to them very often. She likes things like literature and fine art but probably spends her spare time on other pursuits. It's possible she would visit some of the world's top museums while on vacation but then neglect the ones in her hometown.

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Physicality separates people who enjoy being physically energetic and active from those who are uncomfortable or dislike engaging in sports or strenuous activity. Some people push life to the limit, scaling mountains or competing in triathlons. People with a less demanding sense of Physicality enjoy looking at mountains more than climbing them. The dimensions of your profile which compose the most important aspects of your Physicality are Appearance, Physical Energy and Sexual Passion.

Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

Sexual Passion: Your ideal companion is looking for the surge of physical excitement that comes with falling in love. When she's with her partner, she expects a physical connection that goes beyond compatible personalities and interests. Physical chemistry isn't her only need, or even her main one, but she does want to feel a strong desire for her partner.

Appearance: You need a woman who can appreciate everything you bring to the table. She's interested in everything about you, like your personality, intelligence and humor. She doesn't judge you by shallow measurements, such as the size of your biceps or the color of your eyes. She also doesn't spend hours obsessing over how she looks.

Physical Energy: You are best suited to the kind of woman who lives by the adage that slow and steady wins the race. She doesn't need to be active in order to be happy. She generally wants to take time out to relax on weekends. She doesn't need to incorporate physical activities like running a 5K or going for a hike into her day in order to feel good about herself.

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Goal Orientation refers to the drive to plan for the future versus the urge to live in the moment. People who score low on Goal Orientation are generally spontaneous and free spirited. They are likely to act on their first impulse and worry about the consequences afterwards and place a high value on being clever and lucky. People who score high on Goal Orientation, on the other hand, are more driven to think about future consequences before acting, place a high value on being wise and cautious, and like to always put their best foot forward. The dimensions of your profile that relate to your Goal Orientation are Industry, Ambition, Organization and Education.

Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

Industry: You are best suited to someone who shares your view that there's more to life than work. She can appreciate a lazy day spent doing nothing. She doesn't always need to be striving toward something. Others see her as someone who's not materialistic or a perfectionist.

Ambition: You will be happiest with a woman who isn't obsessed with things like career advancement, money and power. She is content with her current status in life. She cares about her performance professionally and wants to be popular socially, but she isn't comparing herself to everyone around her.

Some additional details about your ideal mate:

Education: Your ideal mate isn't concerned with academic degrees. She won't care if you don't talk together about things like politics, religion, art or history. Others see her as someone who isn't concerned with such philosophical discussions. She thinks a formal education isn't necessary for success.

Organization: Your ideal mate is known for her spontaneity. She isn't the type of woman who holds fast to a rigid plan for each day. She'll do one thing until something better comes along and then take advantage of what life throws her way. Her willingness to embrace life can be fun at time, but also means she's a bit scattered.

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While day-to-day events play a major role in our feelings, there are deep-seated patterns of emotion that underlie our personality and stretch across the span of our lives. These patterns are considered your Emotional Temperament. People who score high on Emotional Temperament are generally upbeat about life and are slow to get upset in the face of minor setbacks or disappointments. People who score low on Emotional Temperament are more likely to experience feelings such as anxiety, anger and depression on a regular basis. The dimensions of your profile that compose your Emotional Temperament are Mood Management, Self-Concept, Emotional Status, Anger Management and Obstreperousness.

Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

Obstreperousness: Your ideal mate is someone who isn't afraid to voice her opinion and appreciates the fact that you do the same. She won't be surprised if you disagree with her or argue your position. Her friends would probably describe her as the type of person who's more concerned with being right than just having everyone like her. Like you, she may get irritated when others disagree with her.

Anger Management: You will be happiest with a woman who controls her temper. Generally speaking, she has a long fuse. When she does get mad, she doesn't take it out on others or blame them for her frustration.

Some additional details about your ideal mate:

Self-Concept: Your ideal match is someone who will be able to accept you as you are without trying to change you. She can understand what it's like to be misunderstood or underappreciated. She will be there for you when you're feeling stressed.

Emotional Status: You are best suited to a woman who has a strong view of what's good about life, and what isn't. She doesn't see the world through rose-colored glasses, so she won't expect you to be positive and upbeat all of the time. She'll be able to understand your moods, like if you're having a bad day because of a problem with your boss or a friend. She'll try to work with you to make things better.

Mood Management: You will be most satisfied with a woman who will tolerate you, even if she's the occasional victim of your grouchiness. She will pay attention to your mood and realize that it's sometimes best to give you some space.

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Many significant ingredients, like upbringing, family goals and spirituality combine to form a person's values and beliefs. Whatever form they take, your values are one of the most powerful determinants of your behavior. Values also play a large role in who we feel comfortable being around and who we find attractive. Dissimilarity in values generally causes discomfort or awkwardness in social situations. Although close friends, family and loved ones can often have one or two stark contrasts in their values, this is made possible by a greater number of shared values, backgrounds and experiences that provide a framework of comfort and similarity. When building an intimate relationship, establishing shared values early on is key to long-term success. The dimensions that we consider as part of your Personal Values are Traditionalism, Spirituality, Family Goals and Altruism.

Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

Family Background: Your ideal mate will probably understand if your relationship with your family is distant, uninvolved or filled with conflict. Her own family relationships are sometimes marked by tension, miscommunication or anger, but she has learned to adapt.

Family Goals: Your ideal mate shares your desires to start a new family and experience the joys of parenthood. She loves children and expects that they will play a central role in her life.

Some additional details about your ideal mate:

Spirituality: Your ideal mate isn't the kind of person who gets involved with a religious community. She generally only attends religious services for weddings and funerals, and even then she's uncomfortable with organized religion.

Traditionalism: You'll be happiest with a woman who considers things like traditional family values and strict moral guidelines as antiquated. She's generally committed to personal freedom and self-expression.

Altruism: Your ideal mate is the kind of person who cares about helping strangers but who might not spend a lot of her time doing so. She is someone who would help her friends if they asked her to. With encouragement, she might join efforts to help strangers, whether it's a canned food drive or a charity fundraiser.

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All in all, it basically nailed me, which makes me unsuprised in all the world no one is a match for me.
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  • Posted On: Jul 10 2006 12:53am
Your profile sounds kind of like me, too. How much did you pay for that complicated piece of analysis?
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  • Posted On: Jul 10 2006 5:58am
it's free... me and Archie were bored about a year ago and filled that thing out to see if they'd match us.. no go :-p I've only had two matches sent to me in all this time heh
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  • Posted On: Jul 10 2006 9:22pm
I filled it out. $40 personality test, free? Heck yeah. Takes forever to complete though, and in seven months it has only sent me five matches, most of them contain traits that I don't care to have in an SO.
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  • Posted On: Jul 10 2006 11:03pm
geeze, Titus got 5 in seven months and I got 2 in over a year.. wah!
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  • Posted On: Jul 11 2006 12:05am
"* You may appear to others as hesitant rather than decisive, although you become decisive once all the facts are gathered and evaluated. You will not make a decision unless certain that analysis is complete."

Boy, it's a good thing whoever made this test didn't have this trait!
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  • Posted On: Jul 13 2006 2:22am
What traits were those Titus?


Milky: LOL
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  • Posted On: Jul 13 2006 8:02pm
Funny how on all the commercials for eHarmony they repeat the same happy couples; never adding any footage of new members added to the supposed happy family.

You want better odds – have better timing
Example:
Spring break - hot spring flings > right?

Guess when Omnae made his move?
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  • Posted On: Jul 13 2006 9:58pm
Uhhh.... when you were in your hour of need? :-P

Om, the desire to be overseas. On more than a part-time basis. Two ov'm had that. One didn't want children, I want that.